Becoming a mom for the first time is a beautiful, overwhelming, and totally life-changing experience. And no matter how many books you read or advice you hear, there are always a few surprises along the way. That’s why we asked our FIT4MOM instructors to share the real things they wish they’d known after having baby number one. From postpartum recovery to finding time for self-care (yes, it’s possible!) and everything in between, this list is full of helpful tips, honest truths, and reassuring reminders from moms who’ve been there. So take a deep breath, you’ve got this, and we’ve got your back.

1. The nurses get all up in your business in the bathroom after the baby is born - Nicole F. mom of 3
2. That first postpartum period is a doozie (more blood and pain than I expected) - Lindsey S. mom of 2
3. It's ok to mourn your pre-baby life. Talk about those feelings with your partner, friends and family as you navigate discovering life as a mom - Kristen K. mom of 2
4. Your baby won't be a baby forever, so check out the school district your town feeds into to be sure it's what you want for your child - Jasmine H. mom of 2
5. Not everything will come naturally, and that's OK - Katie P. mom of 2
6. Google is great for some info, but not everything. Find a community of moms, like FIT4MOM, that you can lean into for sound, meaningful advice and support - Carly T. mom of 2
7. It's OK to ask others for help. Your family and friends won't know what you need unless you ask, and you DO NOT need to do it all - Shannon H. mom of 1
8. Motherhood can be lonely and isolating. A mom community, like FIT4MOM, can help you meet other moms, make mom friends, and do wonderful things for your mental health - Amanda S. mom of 2
9. Nursing is beautiful but it can also be really hard and painful, bringing postpartum cramps (totally normal, BTW) and raw nipples, but both will pass. At the end of the day, fed is best, whether it's breast or bottle - Alyssa S. mom of 4
10. Mastitis isn't rare, so talk about it with your doc, friends, and family and get tips if you experience it - Megan G. mom of 2
11. It's OK to take breaks away from baby when you need to, whether it's for a nap, time with your partner, or just alone time - Heather T. mom of 2
12. Baby will go through lots phases (good, bad and ugly). Tap into a mom community, like FIT4MOM, for tips and tricks from other moms who've "been there, done that" to help ease your mind and get you and your baby through - Cate M. mom of 2