There is no doubt these last 8 weeks have left me in awe of what I’m capable of. But more than that – how I’ve been able to cope with “failure.”
I would be lying to you if I told you I followed this rigorous Body Back Transformation program to a T. I was often intimidated and the thought “is she serious?!” crossed my mind more times than I care to mention. The workouts, the homework, the meal planning are all set in place with a purpose, however, for someone who had not worked out in four years, I found myself overwhelmed a lot of the time.
Becoming present to my self-talk was a game changer. Just when I was starting to feel defeated (at around week 3), I really paid attention to how hard I was being on myself and decided ENOUGH! After that, I reassured myself I’m doing the best I can.
It’s hard to be in good spirits when you don’t see results… but something magical happened around week six. I thought it was...more
I’m inspired to reach out to the Mother who is looking for a place to belong. My eight-week Fit4Mom journey has opened my eyes to the strong community we organically form as women and the spoken (and unspoken) challenges we face day to day. Some of our challenges are relatable, yet many are not; not by our partners, parents, children and/or childless peers.
But we do. We “get” it. The conversations I’ve heard and had over the last 2 months have range from getting our toddlers to eat certain foods to fertility challenges to feeling like we’re lacking in every part of our lives.
You are one of us; before you think of joining a class, know that you belong here. Know that we get the sleepless nights, the constant juggling of life, the importance to connect and the many changes that come with motherhood.
I’ll admit it- I was you. I was afraid to join Fit4Moms’ Body Back Transformation program (or any program for that matter.) After not working out for close to 4 years I felt completely inadequate and frankly embarrassed to work out with a strange group of...more
My favorite part of our 1 hour class is the time we take to wind-down and stretch; not only because I get to rest- but because I get to reflect and center myselfbefore heading back home to my little family. Our instructor has read some pretty awesome meditations for us over the last 6 weeks and I find this one to be the best so far. I wanted to share it with you all. Enjoy!
As moms, we often feel like we don’t get things quite right. We feel like we aren’t a perfect parent, we worry we aren’t a perfect example of beauty; we beat ourselves up comparing ourselves to others. But to some small people in this world, you are PERFECT. You are Supermom.
Only YOU have soothed HUNDREDS of cries,
given HUNDREDS of tickles,
journeyed through HUNDREDS of sleepless nights,
changed HUNDREDS of diapers,
given HUNDREDS of kisses and squeezing hugs,
made HUNDREDS of owies go away with only your loving touch.
Documenting this Fit4Mom journey has been a true test of my emotional and physical health; my unrealistic expectations and my motives for being healthy.
If you're serious about sustainable change (in or out of the gym), don't expect to see results overnight or in a week. Healthy habits are harder to create than unhealthy ones; it takes a lot of effort, willpower and often you're left with little to no gratification.
I highly recommend you find accountability for your goals. Find someone who is supportive, firm and non-judgmental. This could be one person or (in my case) several.
Along with consistency and accountability, practice self-forgiveness. You're doing the best you can for goodness sake. The number one lesson I've learned thus far is to be nice to myself. Think of it this way, would you praise and encourage your child to keep going in order to achieve a goal they’re striving for, or would you tell them to give up?
I can’t do a side plank to save my life. But I have noticed gradual strength in my form over the...more
I didn’t think I’d say this so soon, but I’ve really really come to enjoy my workouts with Fit4Mom. It’s not always easy to leave the house, but once I’m in the gym, I’m always happy I made it there. And I always leave surprised at what I can accomplish in one hour. Always.
So far, our workouts have been solo - as in, we workout in a group setting but its every mamma for herself. Some days I’m so tired and think there’s no way I can do 10 more of these, or I lose count of my reps and I think its okay I’ve done enough. Or how about this - our instructor says “10 seconds left” and I catch myself slowing down or stopping all together before the timer goes off.
No big deal right?
If you’ve been following along, you’ve probably already noticed this health and wellness journey is largely in the mind. After I caught myself “stopping short” a few times, I realized the only person I was cheating was me. No one was checking on me to see if I did all 50 burpees. No one cares; everyone is in their own head, in their own...more
The Body Back program requires us to be at the gym 2xs a week, and last week after our trainer kicked our butt on Monday, I really really didn’t want to go on Wednesday. I was so sore and tired and I started to make up my mind as to why I couldn’t go and what excuse I could give my group... I looked at my husband hoping to gather an ounce of sympathy and said “I’m not going today.” He looked back at me with slight disappointment and said something like, “Okayyyy but you’ve already committed...” So I started rambling off all my premeditated excuses in hopes to help me feel better and justify my copping out.
Here’s the truth guys - no one really wants to go to the gym. One of my favorite authors, Darren Hardy says - we as human are inherently lazy, it’s in our DNA! ( https://darrenhardy.com/2014/03/high-performers/ ). The best way to get around this is to reinforce the healthy habits your are looking to create. You can do this with people you love, establishing...more
Guys, week-two was a total bust. I started strong, feeling the groove of my new routine- then slowly but surely I let life get in the way. My at-home workouts were incomplete, my meal planning was practically out the window and I started to slightly disappear from the conversations in our Facebook group. There’s really no one to blame but myself, and as I started to spiral into feelings of guilt and shame – my Bestie stepped in and said “Hey! Its okay, I know it’s hard. Just pick up again tomorrow.”
We were all assigned a “Bestie” last week, which became yet another strong layer of accountability. I can’t tell you how nice it was to be encouraged instead of judged. I mean, as Moms, we judge ourselves practically on cue, right? Even before we step out of bed we’re thinking of all the things we didn’t do, could’ve done, etc.
I’m not very easy on myself and I’m thankful I have someone who is. Not for the sake of cutting me slack – but as a gentle reminder that we’re in this together, we’re not perfect and we always have an opportunity to try again. I mentioned in my...more
The first week at the gym was eye-opening on so many levels. I have to say I was pleasantly surprised at how the program is structured to really make Moms feel empowered. I was also surprised at all the ugly that came up…
I was nervous about being back at the gym for the first time in 4 years and was certain I was going to be the odd one out. To my surprise, everyone in the group was friendly and reassuring. I found the women to be of all heights and sizes and they treated me as if we had known each other for months. We workout at a dance studio which means there are mirrors all around us. At first, I didn’t think much of it, but once we got started, I noticed it was difficult to look at myself in the mirror and I felt a lot of insecurities and negative self-talk creep in - especially if I felt the exercises were getting too tough. Things like “it’s your fault we’re in this mess” and “how could you be so careless” and “you deserve to struggle through this…” I didn’t say anything to anyone; all of this caught me by surprise and I tried my best to shake it off (with little to...more
Talking to a good friend recently I heard my Self say " I don't know what I got myself into; I really don't want to do this [Body Back]...." and then moments, later - "...but I know if I don't do this now, without THIS type of accountability - I probably never will..." It's true. The day is getting near and I'm becoming increasingly anxious about the work that lies ahead.
Then she said something that spoke to my core: what will happen if you say "I'm not ready for this" and cancel your commitment?
I stopped her before she completed her sentence: "Absolutely not! Taking it all back is not an option. I HAVE to do this!"
The 8-week Body Back Program is drawing near and I'm forced to look at my goals and meal plan for next week. I'm not going to lie -- It's pretty overwhelming. Looking at the food adjustments gives me a bit of anxiety thinking "what the heck am I supposed to eat and when am I going to find time to plan, shop, cook, run my business etc...?"
I've never been a meal planner. Probably the reason I'm in this mess. For whatever reason I...more
Daisy De La Cruz
Ladies, you know the feeling you get when you’re all dolled up, not a hair out of place, makeup is flawless and your outfit is on point? With so much feminine and secure energy exuding from you, there’s no doubt everyone in the room can feel it too. Sexy, right? Yea, I can’t tell you the last time I felt like that.
I’m getting completely out of my comfort zone to talk about my health. A subject I largely avoid and hope no one else brings up. Or notices. But that’s going nowhere fast and after I became a Certified Integrative Health Coach and started taking clients, it was in my face more than ever and the voice in my head kept saying: “Daisy, you don’t fit the part.”
The truth is I’m not happy with the way I feel. All through my 20’s, I was one confident babe and nothing came before me and my girly ways. Please don’t take my comment as vain, I wasn’t conceited– I felt good and I always put my self-care first. Always.
So… what happened?
There wasn’t a single event that...more